Posts Tagged ‘Career’

Time – There is a new Sheriff in town!

Juggling an acting career and motherhood, Time is often on my mind. Every day feels like a race against the clock as I try to get as much work done as possible in the 3hrs my son is in PreK.  I’m still surprised how much time it takes me to get my son out of the door in the morning, but that is a whole other story!

Pre kid – I often used to complain that I didn’t have enough time. All I have to say…. WHAT WAS I THINKING???

However Time is a funny thing….

Years ago, a bar I worked in closed unexpectedly and I collected unemployment for a few months before I found a new gig.  I was so excited about the idea as I’d have all this free time to focus on my acting career.  I was convinced it would create huge breakthroughs for me. However time expanded and I found myself just as busy without a job as I was with a job! I saw friends and went to the gym and without structure it took way more effort to get stuff done than before.  I got more done in an hour before heading to work than in an entire leisurely afternoon! Time was NOT the problem.

I need to remind myself of this lesson!  I can get a LOT done if I do the “right” things.  I try and focus on the out of my comfort zone actions, scary actions that yield the biggest results and not get trapped in minutia and busy work.  It has taught me to focus and prioritize and I’m a lot less precious with things.  I don’t have time to obsess over emails and re-read them a thousand times, I just have to hit send and move on.

In his book The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks states that we often think of time as outside of us as if it is something we can’t control.  In contrast he encourages people to shift to what he calls Einstein time and the concept that You’re where time comes from. I’m what he calls a classic victim of time as I have a lifetime habit of complaining about time.

His example –

Your son comes in and says, “Please play ball with me.”

Your respond “Sorry, I don’t have time right now

Next imagine instead that he comes in and says, “I’ve just cut my foot and there is blood everywhere.

Of course NOW you will help him.  In those two examples you had exactly the same amount of time, the TRUTH was that you did NOT WANT to play ball but you WANT to take him to the hospital.

Gay Hendricks would advocate saying “I want to finish what I’m doing before we play ball” as opposed to using a lack of time as an excuse.

When I first read The Big Leap, I tracked how many times I said, “We/I don’t have time,” it was astonishing! Habits can be tough to break but being accountable certainly helps!  So I declare – Time, There is a new Sheriff in Town! 

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Career, Motherhood and Meditation

I’ve been meditating for over a year now and I find it incredibility helpful.  As I juggle career and motherhood I find those 15minutes vital to my well-being.

My Meditation practice had a pretty comedic start though –

Day 1. I committed to just 5 minutes and chose a simple technique that involves meditating on one word.  I set my kitchen timer and explained to my 2 yr old that I was going to sit on my yoga mat, close my eyes and meditate.  I invited him to sit with me and sat in lotus position on a stack of magazines (I have tight hips.)  My son climbed all over me immediately.  As I focused on the word Patience he pulled my hair, “What you doing Mummy? You meditating Mummy? You meditating?”   When the timer went off, I blessed my practice with Namaste and rolled up my mat – it was messy but I’d done it.

Day 5. He became less interested and just quietly played nearby.

Day 6. He got out his own magazines from the rack and sat across from me!!

Day 7. When the timer went off he whispered very earnestly “Mama-stay, Mama-stay.” (His understanding of Namaste)  He did this for 2 weeks.

Day 15. I got into the habit of telling him the word I chose to meditate on.  (Honestly, having a two-year-old, it was often Patience.)  However, without fail my son would say “No! Monkey, Mummy…Meditate on Monkey, Mediate on Monkey.”

Day 20 I gave Monkey a try – I did not find it as effective at setting a tone for my day as Joy, Peace or Breathe!  But… I then spoke to a friend and yoga teacher and she said quieting the monkey mind is actually a meditation technique, so maybe he was trying to tell me something after all!

Fast forward to today –

Though I miss being able to set my intention for the day through meditation, I meditate before bed mostly now.  At night the apartment is quiet and I find it a great way to download the noise of the day – plus I sleep like a baby. I’ve also upgraded my stack of magazines to an actual meditation block!

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Stock Photography. To Do, or Not to Do – that is the Question.

A few months ago my Italian cousin sent me a Facebook message, which said she had seen me in the Italian magazine Come Stai.  I assumed it was just someone with my likeness.  I was wrong.  It was a photo of me with a caption that translated as ” 20% of separations are caused by an unfulfilling sex life.”  It was from a stock photo shoot I did 4 years ago!

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Come Stai – February 2014.  Photo Credit: Megan Maloy for Image Source.

With a risk of TMI – I think that a fulfilling sex life is important in a marriage, so I’m ok with this.  However, it was a great reminder that I have signed away my rights to my stock images and have no control over their usage.  There are definitely subjects I would not want my image used for – Cigarettes jump to mind immediately.

What is a stock photo?  A stock photo is a way for magazines, advertisers etc to get high quality photos at a cheaper price than hiring a photographer.  Subjects in Stock Photography could be anything from food, animals, travel images, to people posing as professionals or expressing common emotions.  The cost to buy these images depends on many things – if you are buying exclusive or non-exclusive rights, how long you can use the photo for, size of readership and country of use.

Print work doesn’t fall under any union jurisdiction so it’s non-union work. Rates and hours vary greatly, but in my experience models are paid on average $100-$300 for a day’s work. Models sign a release and the images can be used in anyway, possibly in perpetuity. This article really illustrates how one photo can be used repeatedly in many different outlets.

One of the most infamous Stock Photo stories recently was Samantha Owens.  A stock photo of her was used in a Sex Column in The Guardian with the title – I fantasize about group sex with obese old men.  She wasn’t really fazed however and even enjoyed a huge twitter following after she came forward with her story.

Ariane (aka The Overexposed Stock Model) is a Stock Model that I guarantee you have seen EVERYWHERE!

If you work consistently as a commercial print model it makes sense not to do Stock Shoots. The possibilities of overexposure and conflicts definitely increase (not booking a job as you already appear in a campaign for a rival/conflicting product.)  However for someone like myself, who is primarily an actor, stock work has been fun, occasional work.  You don’t need an agent, casting for Stock shoots are often on self-submission sites like Now Casting or Actors Access. It is also a great way to build a portfolio of photos if you are looking to do more print work.  Hey, even Amy Poehler did Stock Photos when she was starting out!

This blog was originally published on MsinTheBiz.com